Having a growth mindset when you are an adult can feel like a difficult thing to do.
When life gets busy (and it usually is) it can take everything within us just to maintain our current sanity, much less actively seek out our flaws and change them.
As a kid I had this illogical theory that I just needed to become an adult and then somehow all of my problems would magically work themselves out. I would somehow know the answer to everything and that I would hit a certain age and wouldn’t need to grow anymore.
As it turns out, however, that isn’t the case at all.
Why You Should Have A Growth Mindset At Every Age
When we’re kids, we’re open to the idea that we don’t know everything, that we need to grow. We want to change and become better people. Maturing is a natural habit for us.
Somewhere around high school, life starts to feel more stressful as our responsibility increases. We lose sight of our “growth” mentality and switch to “survival” mentality.
We eventually become more “us” and grow further apart from the days of our childhood… and with it, our childlike mentality.
It’s like we forget to be open to the idea that we still need to actively grow. The idea that we’re wrong can ignite our insecurities and cause our protector (pride) to rise up.
We feel embarrassed that our lives don’t look Instagram perfect. Instead of choosing to ignore the critic hiding behind their computer (and own insecurities), we listen to them and ultimately give room to the worst critic of all; ourselves.
It stunts our growth which is a problem because when we aren’t growing, we’re stagnant.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t know anything that literally and theoretically stinks more than something that is stagnant.
If you’re kind of feeling like you life stinks right now, then you may want to consider making a little room for growth.
So how do you switch back to a growth mindset?
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How to Have a Growth Mindset When You Are An Adult
1) Be Open and Willing to Change
You might be thinking this one is too obvious, but I have come across so many people that don’t realize they’re so stuck in their ways, they are literally hindering themselves and those around them.
You have to not only be open to change but willing to change. The difference between being open to change and willing to change is actually taking action to change.
No matter how good of an idea you make think personal growth is (being open), if you don’t take action on it, then you may want to evaluate whether or not you are willing to change.
2) Be Willing to Admit You May be Wrong
This is the part that really gets most people. They just can’t move past this concept.
Sure, it can be painful when someone attempts to correct us in just about any area of our lives. Especially if they go about it in a terrible way and are a jerk about it but if we shut down every single person who offers us constructive criticism, we may be shutting down our own growth.
Sometimes it’s easier for people on the outside of a situation, to take stock of it.
While it is fair to also say that if they aren’t going through whatever you are, they may not be able to offer experienced wisdom, it’s important to differentiate between the two.
The fact of the matter is that we don’t know everything, and we don’t always handle things correctly. Being willing to admit that and hear other people’s perspectives is a huge part of having a growth mindset when you are an adult.
3) Always Move Forward
We tend to get stuck in life when something didn’t go exactly as planned. We peg ourselves as “failures” and let life take a toll on us.
As a result, we stop moving forward because “what’s the point?” feels easier than pushing forward.
Here’s the thing though, failures are just lessons about what isn’t the best way to do something.
If you are human, it’s going to happen at some point. It is just part of life for everyone.
If you allow something like things not going according to plan, keep you from moving forward, you’re going to get stuck where you are.
Instead of looking at something as a failure, look at it as an opportunity to pick yourself up and move forward in a different way.
Part of having a growth mindset when you are an adult is allowing failures to not be a shameful thing, but to be your next launching point.
Grow through the setback. Pushing through tough, causes more growth than just about anything else.
4) Understand That Growth Happens One Day at a Time
In the same way that it has taken us one day at a time to get to the place we are, it is going to take one day at a time to get where we want to be.
Growth is a gradual process. Part of having a growth mindset when you are an adult is having the patience to work on your growth day by day.
It may feel slow at first, but one day you will wake up and look back on the day you started your personal growth journey and realize just how far you have come.
And those moments are the ones that make it all worth it.
In fact, the math has been done, and just a 1% change each day, will make you 37 times better in a year. (source)
I don’t know about you, but 1% a day sounds like less work to me than getting out of bed some days.
1% is so doable! I know you can do that!
5) Set Goals for the Area of Your Mindset You Want to Intentionally Grow
I’ve found that often the easiest thing in life is knowing what I want, and the hardest thing is knowing how to do it.
Do you ever feel that way?
If so, I want to let you in on a little secret of mine… The best way to work towards something is to set goals for it.
Now, I’m not talking about big massive, pain in the butt, make you feel unaccomplished, kind of goals.
I’m talking about mapping out a plan of action that will get you from where you are now, to where you want to be. An easy to follow gives you direction, keeps you on track plan.
That’s what setting goals should be all about.
If you feel like creating a guided plan for yourself is something you want but again, aren’t sure how to do it, check out my post: The Ultimate Goal Setting Guide to Unlock Your Dreams.
I hope you have found these points helpful in having a growth mindset! Do you have a specific area you’re hoping to grow in? Tell me about it in the comment box below!